They say that "the person who cares most about you would see your sadness when everyone is bathing with your smile…" but wait, isn’t this saying wrong?
When you are smiling, NO ONE will ever see that you are sad, unless, they are psychic or when, even for a short time, you would give up and go out of your shell and just cry. That’s when someone or everyone could see that you are sad, right? How does one act when misery strikes, by the way? Smile like nothing’s wrong?
So we’ll end up with these basic questions:
- ·“What is wrong with crying, anyway?”
- ·“Why are many of us so afraid of letting others see our tears?”
Regarding the first question, I could say that there’s really nothing wrong with it. I know that it’s good to cry, to pour out feelings kept back, and to be able to grow and learn. But sometimes, crying could trigger self-pity, which is a ghastly thing. So let’s just cry and let the world see that we’re sad! Also, to let others comfort us with nice soothing words and advice. Crying could also help us give to others the signs that we are mourning, that we’re broken, that we need to be mended… That’s the beauty of our tears…
I don’t really mean crying in public and all that sniffing your nose with all those anonymous people around you. I just mean that it would be best to open up to someone you are comfortable with, whom you really trust and confide in. That’s what this post is all about, opening up oneself to somebody you trust. To let them see your tears and share your troubles.
I don’t believe that there is no hope… There would always be hope as long as we’re still breathing. But then again, there are many fiascos in out lives that we sometimes find hard to overcome, that we really think that that’s a really great rock that we need to put on our weak backs. “There’s no hope”, we often say, but the truth? There still is, only that we are too overshadowed by our own fears that we fail to see that colorful rainbow in our midst.
So what do you do when problems strike?
1. Hurry to the bedroom.
2. Punch the pillow.
3. Cry on it…And after getting it a little damp…
4. Open the organizer/diary/whatever, and scribble with your favorite pen, and just plan things out…
And after minutes of comforting yourself…
5. Hurry outside the room and look as if nothing happened.
Do you think you had solved your problem? Of course not! Doing this would not even pierce through the surface of sorting them out. Instead of doing this nonsense I have listed, Why not call a friend and speak out, and NEVER be afraid to let her/him see or hear you cry?
I don’t really regret leaving the first question with a question again. It’s like questioning every question that you encounter. Anyway, I want to leave it that way so that there would be things to be pondered on, and to be more mind boggling, don’t you think? =p
Moving on… The second question is difficult to answer because each person, on his/her own way would find my answers so blunt because I myself could not find a proper explanation on why we are afraid of others seeing our tears.
But I’m making this list anyway.
1. We are shy.
2. We don’t want to make a fuss.
3. We would be dubbed “crybaby”.
4. We would be labeled “immature”.
Or a simple answer to the question…
5. We are just afraid.
So what? At least we’ve found a way to pull out the thorns that have been aching us. These “labels” about us could only be temporal so why bother? Why sacrifice and keep all the tears? There’s no point in saving them anyway. Whatever our reason is, for fighting back the tears, we’ll just accept that we screwed up. But we should always remember that there’s still hope… umm… I’m saying this same thing again, but anyway, “I think it would be best to let others know our burdens, because when we need to fly again, we can’t do it with wounded wings... ”
…so let us cry and beg for help because we can’t heal alone.